I know that when we reach a certain age, some women start to feel invisible and lose their sense of identity. Even those who were previously confident in their choices, can start to doubt themselves and feel that they’ve lost sight of their personal style. Clients tell me that lockdown has just served to exacerbate these feelings. As a woman in her fifties, I totally understand this.
Whilst we are all individuals and shouldn’t feel compelled to follow any sartorial rules, if you’re feeling a bit “adrift”, I hope you will find some of these style tips helpful:
- Accentuate the positive. Instead of focusing on your perceived shortcomings, make sure clothes and accessories highlight the parts of your body you’re happiest with.
- Dress the body you have now, rather than the one you used to have or wish you had! What looks great on your best friend, or a celebrity may not flatter you but there are definitely clothes that will. If you’d like to nail the styles that work best for you, book in for a style consultation.
- Wear colours that flatter you now. Sometimes the colours we wore in our youth can look quite harsh as we age. Black, in particular, can be tough to carry off, so think about switching to navy or charcoal or pewter as your neutral. Could it be time for a colour analysis or review?
- Sheer can be sexy. Some women feel the need to cover-up as they get older but wearing lace or semi-sheer fabrics can be flattering and sexy. If you do want to bare your flesh, showing cleavage or legs – not both (unless you’re on holiday!) – keeps it classy.
- Be current but avoid fashion extremes (unless you’re sure they work for you). Feel free to shop everywhere! Just because your daughter buys a particular brand doesn’t automatically mean you can’t. Brands like Zara, & Other Stories and Jigsaw have lovely pieces that are totally appropriate for mature women.
- No more matchy-matchy! Being overly co-ordinated tends to look dated and a little contrived these days. Your shoes don’t have to match your handbag and your belt!
- Get your hairstyle right. You don’t automatically have to go shorter as you get older. A longer style is helpful for disguising a slack jawline or double chin. Try to get some movement into your hair too. A rigid “helmet” that has been hair-sprayed into submission is ageing.
- If you colour your hair, keep it natural looking and ensure it works with your current skin tone. If, prior to going grey, you had naturally blonde to mid brown hair, you may find taking it back to its original colour works well for you. If in doubt though it’s generally better to go lighter rather than darker; your hair colour aged around seven can provide a useful guide as to how light you could go. For those who had naturally very dark hair in their youth, maintaining that original colour will likely look too harsh. Take it a couple of shades lighter and add some high/lowlights to soften it.
- Wear make-up but keep it subtle. Even if you didn’t wear make-up in your youth, you’ll find that nowadays a little, judiciously applied, will make you look fresher and healthier. Avoid sparkly eyeshadows near crows feet and dark and/or matt lip colours if you have thin lips or a small mouth though. If your face a has sagged a little ( it happens to us all, eventually!) applying your blusher quite high on your cheek bones and winging your eye brows out slightly at the ends, can really give your face a “lift”. For more advice on this, why not book onto my next Mature Make-Up Class?
- If you wore it first time around, think twice about wearing it again! This doesn’t mean you absolutely can’t wear mini skirts (or indeed anything else you please) but you need to be honest with yourself as to whether the style still looks good on you or whether there are other options that are more flattering.
For personal advice in a friendly and supportive group environment, why not book onto my Fab At Fifty & Beyond workshop on 15th October?